I understand why some choose silence. It’s safe, familiar, easy, and convenient to not rock the boat. Although speaking our truth has its risks and being our authentic self leaves us open to scrutiny, the rewards far outweigh the upshots. When we expose our genuine essence rather than a guarded facade, it can hurt even more when someone criticizes or rejects us, that’s why it takes uncompromising courage to step outside of our comfort zone and own our truth. But how do we grow comfortable with discomfort and the uncertainty that mounts when we yearn to speak up? Well, we talk about the benefits:
- Honesty brings sweet relief and doesn’t require restrained opinions and passions. Authenticity propels and incites us to explore our dreams.
- Authentic relationships are a direct result of being ourselves completely, and conversations of substance encourage healthier connections. Being honest will help us to stop wasting time on the wrong people.
- You’ll have more regrets from keeping silent when words matter most, than from speaking from the heart. A life of “what if’s” guarantees a mediocre journey down the path of regret.
- Honesty establishes trust. When we keep our word, people see us as reliable, dependable, and trustworthy. Trust brings value. When we value and respect ourselves, others will too. Honesty and trust are the foundations of any romantic or business relationship.
- Clarity and strength come from honesty. When we begin to live in the light, we are no longer able to lie to ourselves. To quote American psychiatrist M Scott Peck, “The price for deceiving yourself includes the risk of alienation when you lose your ability to connect with others because your devotion to your own view of reality is greater than your interest in the truth.”
- Manipulation can’t survive honesty. Living in authenticity means we acknowledge that our needs and wants are essential, which in turn gifts us the determination to fight for ourselves and our rights when others will not.
Dare to be different. Dare to be honest. Dare to stand your ground. Dare to love yourself. Just remember that your truth should always be presented through the lens of kindness. When we communicate from a place of compassion, respect, and understanding, we’re looking to improve a situation or connection. However, when ego does the talking, our brutal “truth” turns cruel. Without thoughtful honesty, every relationship and connection stagnates in mediocrity. A life bathed in refreshing authenticity only begins when you dare to step outside of your comfort zone.
“Something powerfully intrinsic happens when the courage to no longer be silent awakens within us, and we are compelled to confront our problems rather than cower to them. The things that torment us thrive on our hushed fears and insecurities, and they are made powerless by a resilient voice; An inner voice that says… “No More!” ~Jason Versey